Pregnancy is great, don’t get me wrong. I am so happy and we feel so blessed. This baby is something I have always wanted and prayed for.
But… there are definitely struggles that come with being pregnant. These are especially prevalent in the first trimester.
I don’t mean to whine, gripe, or complain. I just want to open an honest dialogue for those going through the same thing.
Most women have these same first trimester struggles! If you are one of them or if you have been there/done hat and have some tips to share, please leave a comment at the end of this post!
First Trimester Struggles
The NO Drinking Policy- For those of us who like to social drink and have a glass of wine (or beer) every night to wind down, the no drinking thing is TOUGH. Especially when we are out and our friends and husbands are still having a grand ole time with their booze. Some people have told me that I will no longer want it anymore. That hasn’t happened yet. And here’s a tip: don’t ask for a sip. It only makes it worse! Now that I am in my second trimester I sometimes take a longggg look at my wine bottles at home thinking I can just pour myself half a glass. The temptation is real. I know some people are pretty lax with this and I know plenty of people who still drink while pregnant. I just made a decision not to.
***Second baby- I have a small glass of wine once or twice a week and I don’t feel guilty about it! My OBGYN says it is fine and it is especially nice to do in social gatherings. I usually mix sprite or a something else with it to make it more of a mixer so that the drink is a little bigger and I can sip on it for longer. DEFINITELY talk to your own dr. before drinking!! There are a lot of differing opinions on this.
There are some non-alcoholic wines and beers you can still drink for the taste. Just make sure to read the fine print because a lot of these still have a % of alcohol in them.
***Heineken 0.0 is now out in the states and you can find it in most grocery stores and even some restaurants. It tastes JUST like a regular Heineken!
The Food Restrictions- Being in Hawaii for a month actually made this one tougher. I grew an obsession for raw fish. Quitting cold turkey after eating raw fish every day was actually pretty tough. But, not in the second trimester I no longer crave it (thank goodness). You also have so many other restrictions I can’t even begin to list. You will eat something and later realize you shouldn’t have (like chicken salad.) You also have to watch your sugar & caffeine intake. My husband kills me with this. ‘Is that your first soda today? Didn’t you have a soda yesterday.’ Makes me want to throw something at him! When it comes to coffee- you should try to avoid it during your first trimester. Studies have shown it can lead to miscarriage. After that, you are find to drink it in moderation (one cup a day). I have maybe had 5 cups in the last 5 months.
***Second baby- I have a cup of coffee a day and I still try to do a soda every other day. I am also not that upset about the food restrictions and they don’t seem as tough this go-around. I do miss my sushi though but sometimes it doesn’t even sound good to me at all!
Food Aversions- You don’t want to eat anything but you get sick if you don’t. Some of your favorite foods make you want to puke. Garlic. Ugh garlic. I basically couldn’t eat pizza anymore. Or eggs. Or anything really!
***Second baby- meat is the only aversion I have had. I don’t mind any of the things that made me sick with Miller. Meat was a no go in the first trimester and now I can eat it a little but if there is a lot of it I will definitely leave a lot left on the plate. Oh and I also don’t get sick if I skip breakfast like I did with Miller. I definitely try to eat breakfast if I can though!
Baths- This isn’t a huge one, but I am such a bath girl. I love taking hot baths. I actually think my bath was too hot last night and now it is all I can think about :(. You can take a warm bath, but nothing that is going to raise your body temperature over 102 degrees. Think about sweating. If you are sweating in the bath then it is too hot. Your body avg is 98.6 degrees, so 4 degrees higher is too hot. That’s a pretty cold bath if you ask me :/.
***Have you actually ever felt a 101 degree bath? IT IS HOT! Why did I think I needed to take cold baths?!! Just keep your bath around 100 degrees and try not to sit in it for longer than 20 min.
Tiredness- I have sooooo much respect for all of the women out there who went into work every day while pregnant. I could barely leave the bed/couch during my first trimester. I was sooooo tired. I would sleep in late and have to take long naps.
***The tiredness is caused by the pills you take to help with morning sickness. Once you finish those you will get your energy back!
Dizziness- When I wasn’t tired I was dizzy. There were times when I would steam one dress and have to lay down on the rug in my office before I could steam the next one. My sister and I would be in the middle of a shoot and I would have to lay down somewhere.
***Second baby- never dizzy. If I get up too fast from the couch I can get a little dizzy but that is about it! With Miller I would sometimes feel like I was about to faint (one time I almost did), but I have nothing like that at all with this baby!
Morning Sickness- I have only thrown up twice during my pregnancy. Once was at 7 1/2 weeks because I got up and got ready for a shoot and had nothing to eat. I went downstairs before the shoot and had cold water on an empty stomach. It immediately came back up. The second time was just brushing my teeth (it is really hard to brush your teeth while pregnant. Just get ready! Everything makes you want to throw up!) I told my doctor at my 8 week appt about the first time and she immediately prescribed me Diclegis. I started taking 2 every night because I was scared if I stopped taking it I would throw up again. During week 13 I forgot to bring the pills, woke up the next day, and felt like a new person. Stopped taking them immediately. I actually think the pills were what were making me so tired and dizzy!!!! Just make sure YOU REALLLLLY NEED THEM before you start taking them! My sister was a different case. She was so sick her entire pregnancy and had to take them the entire time. She tried to stop and was soooo sick! They work differently for everyone. Best tip I can give- when you roll over in the morning eat something asap!! Keep all kinds of snacks beside your bed. This will save you! keep snacking throughout the day.
***I only threw up once this pregnancy as well but that is only because I gagged myself with my toothbrush! I did need Diclegis for about three weeks but that was all and the morning sickness went away pretty fast. I will say that when I did get sick I WAS SICK. I didn’t throw up but there were a few days there when I needed to spend a lot of the day in bed because I was nauseous.
Hair- You think the prenatals would help with hair growth immediately but I haven’t really seen a lot of growth yet. Instead, my hair got suuuuper frizzy! Weird huh? The growth and shine apparently starts coming in the second trimester.
The Worry- You just constantly worry. Did you know you only get to hear the baby’s heartbeat every month? You only get to see the baby at your first appt and then again at week 20. THAT IS FOREVER! Every spotting and pain you have can be something horrible. Every day you wake up just hoping your baby is still ok.
***Second baby-not nearrrrr as much worry! I just believe that my baby is ok because this time around I think I would recognize the signs if it wasn’t. You are just a little more confident I think.
Constipation- The prenatals and diclegis make you soooo constipated. It is horrible guys. Your stomach hurts so bad all the time. You can think your baby bump grew soooo big and finally have a ‘sick night’ and your stomach is flat again. It is horrible. This doesn’t stop unfortunately. My sister recommends a squatty potty. She said it saved her!
***Second baby-no constipation!
Pimples- You will definitely break out when you get pregnant. All the hormones and the pills and everything just make your skin crazy. Just be prepared. There is honestly nothing you can do. It will start clearing up again during your second trimester.
***Second baby-no pimples, acne, or changes to my skin at all!
Allergy Season- Being pregnant during allergy season is the WORST! You already build up so much more mucus when you are pregnant and then you add allergies on top of that so it is x10!! Plus, you can’t take your normal allergy medications (anything with a D) and your doctors want you to stay away from nasal spray. Basically they recommend Benadryl (which makes you sleepy), or Zyrtec. Ears- My ears clog up all the time like I am on an airplane or something and sometimes it stays that way for hours. It is probably from the mucus build up but it is horrible!
***Second baby- yep, still the worst. My dr. is now saying Flonase is ok to take while pregnant though so that really helped!
Medicine- So many of your favorite medicines are forbidden (Advil, Dramamine, etc.) Advil would always help me with bad headaches but Tylenol barely does it for me :/. Dramamine is a life saver for me on airplanes. What am I supposed to take instead?
Discharge- Sorry, I know this is gross. But you will be walking around and it will feel like you peed yourself- all the time. Just be prepared. Some of my friends said they had to wear panty liners! So gross!
***yep, yep, yep still the same with the second baby IF NOT WORSE!!! Yeah, I think it is even worse.
Does anyone else have first trimester struggles they want to mention? Or do you have tips that helped you/saved you during the first trimester? Please comment below!! I want this to be a forum that everyone can speak on and share their own experiences!
I know we are happy to be moms and feel blessed to be pregnant, but we are normal and it is normal to want to get it all out sometimes! I am always here if you need to vent!
Also, a lot of women I have spoken to don’t have these problems. They have had a great pregnancy and haven’t experienced these same struggles/symptoms. If that is you- so great! That sounds amazing haha and maybe that will be my next pregnancy!