I always believed that the first trimester in pregnancy was the hardest. Boy was I wrong. The last trimester was definitely the hardest for me!
You just experience SO MUCH during this time. Not only physically but emotionally. It is a mind game and I feel like only the strong make it out alive.
OK, that may be a little dramatic, but I am just trying to prepare you guys for what lies ahead!
The Third Trimester
It is kind of hard to remember what all has happened in the last three months since this last month has gone by so slow.
Here are a few PHYSICAL and EMOTIONAL symptoms I can definitely tell you about:
-Reflux. Haven’t had reflux yet? Just wait, it will come in the third trimester. I was fine drinking coffee my entire pregnancy (a cup a day) until the third trimester. I couldn’t stomach it at all in months 6-9. I have the worst reflux when I try to drink it! You will literally ‘throw up in your mouth’ in your third trimester and not just once.
-Morning Sickness. Did you know your morning sickness can actually come back in the third trimester? I threw up a couple of times and felt like throwing up a few times. Out of the blue.
-Fatigue. Sleep is hard to come by. You will be super uncomfortable no matter how you lay. Your back will wake you in the morning from being sore. If your back doesn’t then your hips definitely will. All of the weight from sleeping on your sides will cause them to ache.
-Bathroom Breaks. Once your baby drops get ready to make around 4 bathroom breaks a night. I wake every two hours or so now to use the restroom. You want to make sure you aren’t holding it in. That can cause a UTI.
-Pelvic Pain. Once Miller dropped I experienced intense pelvic pain for two weeks. It hurt to sit, walk, stand up, everything. Nothing really helped. I think it was just really sore and I had to work out the soreness. It eventually went away.
-Not So Cute Baby Kicks. Ok, they are still cute, but when they get bigger they start to hurt. You will be constantly changing positions to get their butts out of your ribs!
-Braxton Hicks/Contractions. Some people have contractions for a month before their baby arrives. For me, I just had Braxton Hicks. Those just feel like the top of my stomach is tightening up into a ball. Barely hurts. Towards the end of my pregnancy, they have gotten lower and lower and feel like poop cramps. Those aren’t very comfortable at all.
The third trimester is also a super EMOTIONAL time. Your hormones are going crazy at this point and you are just so anxious to meet your baby! It is so hard to stay patient! The anticipation keeps you going (and so will your husband!) He has been such a huge help getting me through these last few weeks!
You also are super anxious about labor. It can happen at any time and everything will be out of your control! You just have to pray that God will work everything out for you and your precious baby!
I have had a very easy pregnancy. So I really hate complaining about anything! Some women experience this x10. Some women are in bed their last month. We believe my sister’s baby (she was breech) actually broke one of her ribs so she had excruciating rib pain most of her pregnancy.
Some women LOVE pregnancy! I have a couple of best friends who literally loved every minute of it! Everyone is so different. Don’t feel guilty if you have any negative thoughts about pregnancy. I know they aren’t towards your baby and they are completely normal!
Pregnancy is a huge blessing. It is alllll worth it times a million once you hold that baby in your arms. I just know that people are too scared to talk about what really goes on during pregnancy because of guilt or the fear of backlash. You know I have always been super honest and just want you guys to be as prepared as possible!
-You get to see the kind of father your husband will be because he will be taking care of you during your third trimester. Troy and I have never been closer.
-Your baby will hear and learn your voice. This is such a special time that you can talk and sing to your baby before you have to share him/her with the world.
-You will get another sonogram or two and get to see that sweet face. I did a 4D sonogram (cost extra) and got to see her sucking on her fingers and smiling! It was magical.
Things I Did to Help Induce
Last week I went a little crazy and just wanted Miller OUT. I heard it was going to be a full moon so I started trying everything to help Miller come out naturally.
-I took a primrose oil pill
-I drank 1-2 cups of raspberry leaf tea
-I ate lots of pineapples, Mexican food, eggplant parmesan, and dates
-I walked 2 miles a day
-I did squats
-I bounced on a ball
-I got a pedicure
-I took lots of baths
-I cleaned the house
-We had sex. Yall.. sex is the WORST during your last trimester. You have reflux the entire time and it is just so uncomfortable. Plus, you don’t feel super sexy and your husband is all worried about the baby moving around or kicking during the deed haha! One of my friends said to try being on top, because that worked for her. Man o man. I think we had the biggest laugh of all that day! I wish we could have taken a picture but the mental image will be stuck in our minds forever haha (I wouldn’t suggest trying it!)
NOTHING WORKED. I did all of these things daily for a week and it turns out I progressed 0%. Literally 0%. I went from .5cm to .5cm. Once I learned that I quit everything. It finally occurred to me that baby girl just wasn’t ready and I should just let nature take it’s course.
I think I was just super impatient and anxious about labor and wanted to control something. It is ALL OUT OF OUR CONTROL. You can definitely try these things. I know some people swear by them! They just didn’t work for me.
Now I have come to peace with the fact that she may just have to be induced at 41 weeks, and that is ok! We decided on 41 weeks since she is already a fairly big baby and anything after 41 weeks could be dangerous to both of us.
Did you guys have these symptoms/emotions during your last trimester? Did you also experience something I didn’t list here? Please share with us! So many women will thank you for sharing your story!
PS- If I offended anyone by this post I am so sorry. Again, I feel so blessed to be able to carry this baby and I know pregnancy is worth everything we go through!
Please note that I will also share an honest review of labor and of postpartum. If you are only looking for sunshine and rainbows this probably isn’t the blog for you!
Teddy Coat (fits large, wearing XS)
PS- I have been using THIS NATURAL DEO throughout my pregnancy and love it!
Photos by Adria Lea