*Hard to believe I ever looked like this haha!
Still no bump!
The last time I was able to button up my favorite shorts
Hi Miller <3
I love the title of this post- ‘My Birth Plan’.
It is funny really because plans really never go accordingly and we always end up having to change decisions and direction at the very end.
Is it even worth it to make a birth plan? Would having a plan in place just make you more stressed out if something went wrong? How many of you guys just decided to wing it?
My Birth Plan
C Section VS Vaginal/Epidural VS No Epidural
All I am 100% sure of is that I want a vaginal birth and an epidural. Even though those two things could be completely out of my control. My sister had a last minute c section and I have heard so many stories about it being ‘too late’ to receive an epidural in a vaginal birth. That scares the crap out of me!! Give me all the pain meds!!
Well, basically just thinking about labor scares the crap out of me. I don’t bring it up and I have told Troy NOT to ever bring it up.
My mom went with an epidural with her first baby and then completely natural with her second two. She said back then they really didn’t know how safe or unsafe an epidural was for the baby. I have never asked her just how bad that hurt.
I am a huge baby when it comes to pain and needles and just about anything that may hurt me. I worry and worry and put it off until I absolutely HAVE to get a shot or get blood drawn and even then I am so dramatic about it. I make Troy come with me and hold my hand and distract me.
So you can see why labor is TERRIFYING. It is probably terrifying for everyone. I think it is something that causes so many pregnant women anxiety and who knows how much sleep is lost over it one you reach the final month!
I definitely have friends who said labor was the most amazing thing in the world. They loved it. I also have friends who won’t talk to me about it because of the experience they had (they don’t want to traumatize me!)
JUST DON’T GOOGLE WHAT LABOR FEELS LIKE. Google is your worst enemy there, trust me!
In the Delivery Room
I am still on the fence about who I want in there with me. Troy is also a baby when it comes to blood and will probably pass out if he watches the actual birth (so he will be up near my head the entire time!) Do I need someone down at the end coaching me along or is the dr pretty good about that?
I told my husband I wanted my mom in there with us and he thought that was ridiculous. Is it? Did you guys have your mothers with you? If so, was it a bad experience or are you glad you did? I just know Troy will be a nervous wreck and I will need someone who has been through it and can stay focused.
I will also have my sister in there photographing, which my husband also thinks is ridiculous. I think I will want those photos one day and he thinks I will never want to look at them again. Did you guys have yours photographed? Was it worth it? It is just the issue of having ANOTHER person in there with us capturing our most intimate moment ever. Let me know your thoughts!
I know most people just get all dolled up and put makeup on and do their hair and then the photographer snaps some photos. I want a real moment. I want her to get the shot when I look my absolute worst and am bawling and don’t even care because I have a baby in my arms.
Did you guys give your husband a say in who is in there with you guys? Last night when he was clearly hating all my decisions I said that he should say ‘whatever you want babe’ and then told him he isn’t the one pushing a baby out of their vagina. I know he wants it to just be us and the doctors and that makes sense and is so him. I always want to be surrounded by family. Do we compromise or am I allowed to be selfish?
Let me know what you decided for your birth plan and if you changed anything with your second or third!
I would also love to know if you had the same fears and worries and if you also struggled with the same decisions!
If you saw my recent Instagram Story you know some people feel my blog is inappropriate. They don’t think I should share honest opinions and feelings.
I just want to thank you guys SO MUCH for giving me the opportunity to always just be me and to be real. I treat this blog as a personal journal and would never want to pretend to be something I am not! I think the problem with blogging is when everyone pretends their lives are perfect and the people who follow them have a hard time measuring up. That isn’t good for anyone and NO ONE is perfect! Being your true self at all times will lead to a much happier, healthier life!
I know the birth plan is something all pregnant women think about and struggle with constantly! It is something that can definitely be researched but it honestly comes down to your own preference and your own needs. Don’t be scared to share your own ideas with your husband, friends, family, or in a comment below!
Love you guys!